Your Kids Will Become Teenagers. Crap.

Try as I might to keep my kids little kids forever, I now they are growing up. It seems just yesterday my third grader was a pre-schooler. Such is life. Raising children is full of surprises. Your kids getting older shouldn’t be one of the, yet somehow it is. Perhaps I’m getting ahead of myself, but as fast as a baby has suddenly become an eight year-old, I know before I know it she’ll be the dreaded teenager. While every teen is unique, there are some universal experiences most parents will face. Here’s what you can expect when your kids become teenagers.

Increased Independence and Responsibility

One of the most defining aspects of the teenage years is the quest for independence. As they grow older, teens often crave more autonomy and responsibility. This can manifest in wanting to make more of their own decisions, from what to eat to how they spend their free time. Wait, are all my kids teenagers now? They sure do demand a lot of mac and cheese and episodes of The Lion Guard. This is just a preview of whats to come I suppose. It’s important for parents to strike a balance between giving them the freedom they desire while ensuring they still have clear boundaries and responsibilities at home.

Navigating the Road to Driving and Their First Car

One of the most exciting milestones in a teenager’s life is the prospect of getting their driver’s license. For many teens, driving represents freedom. However, for parents, it can be a time of anxiety. The journey starts with driving lessons, followed by tests, and eventually the big moment: passing the driving test. Of course from there they will make all my trips to the store with smiles on their face because they are just so happy to be able to drive there. Right?

As a parent, this process requires patience and trust. Helping your teen learn the importance of safety and responsibility behind the wheel is crucial. Then comes the big question: Should they get their own car like a volkswagen polo? Many parents grapple with the decision of buying their teenager their first vehicle. Factors like affordability, reliability, and safety play significant roles. Involving your teen in the decision-making process—whether it’s choosing a used car or contributing to the cost—teaches them financial responsibility and ownership.

The Evolution of Their Wardrobe and Style

Teenagers dress like idiots. As a former teenager myself, I can attest to this. Their shift in wardrobe and personal style is going to happen. Teens are in the process of discovering who they are, and clothing becomes a form of self-expression. You may notice their wardrobe evolving rapidly as they explore different fashion trends, often influenced by their peers, social media (unfortunately), and popular culture (God help me).

For parents, this can sometimes be a point of contention. Perhaps you don’t agree with your teen’s latest fashion choices or feel concerned about the messages certain styles send. However, it’s important to allow them the space to express themselves, as long as they only look like a little bit of an idiot and not a total idiot.

Emotional Ups and Downs

Adolescence is often marked by emotional highs and lows, and parents should expect some turbulence. Hey, wait a second, am I really sure my kids aren’t teenagers already? Hormonal changes, peer pressure, academic stress, and the struggle to fit in can all impact a teen’s emotional state. It’s not uncommon for them to be moody, withdrawn, or occasionally defiant. During these times, patience and open lines of communication are vital. Be a source of support rather than judgment, and encourage them to share their feelings. Also, keep them off of social media as long as you can.

There You Have It

The teenage years are a time of profound change, both for teens and their parents. From gaining independence to exploring their personal style and navigating new responsibilities like driving, teens are on the journey to adulthood. While it can be challenging at times, this period also offers the opportunity for deeper connection and growth as a family. By staying involved, setting clear expectations, and being open to change, you can guide your teen through these transformative years with confidence.

I’ll make sure to revisit this once my kids actually are teenages, see how wrong I was. Won’t that be a treat!